When I first envisioned this blog, my main goal was to
complain about how much I hate food allergies. I guess, maybe, to give advice
to other parents with kids with food allergies to make their lives easier. But
mostly to complain, you know? Because
there is a lot of good information online on how to keep your kid safe from
food allergies once they are diagnosed, but those websites are very informative but super impassive. It’s: here’s how to check a food label! Not: man,
checking food labels gets old. It’s: here’s how to replace eggs in your
muffins. Not: have fun eating your rubbery brick!
But, I think some people who are reading this don’t have
kids with food allergies and are completely new to the world of dangerous foods
being everywhere you look. Luckily, in addition to knowing some tricks to
feeding a kid with food allergies, I also have some tricks on how to be a
better community member to kids with food allergies. In the before times, I tried
to accommodate other kids- when bringing in treats for my son’s birthday, I
knew that one of his friends had an allergy to eggs, so I made scones to share
with everybody. I knew not to send peanut butter and jelly sandwiches to school
(because it’s a written rule for his preschool), but I honestly had no idea
what other foods my kid ate that had common allergens. So here are some things
you can do, even if you aren’t living with a kid with food allergies.
Be aware when you are eating the top 9 allergens in public
Any food can cause an allergic reaction, but these are the
most likely to cause a severe one: peanuts, tree nuts, milk, eggs, soy, wheat,
shellfish, fish, and sesame.
I think it’s good to know these top ones and just carry that
awareness with you when you eat these things. You never know when somebody is
around that is allergic. The biggest thing that drives me bonkers is kids
eating snacks at a public place and then coming up to talk to my kid. A few
weeks ago, we were at the park and there was another family- young toddler,
little kid, and grandma. The young toddler, who was about my youngest’s age,
came over and clearly wanted to talk and interact with my kid. The grandma
started asking questions about how old my kids were and all I could think about
was that the toddler was covered (and I mean COVERED) in cheese dust with what
I can only assume is diary milk spilled all over their onesie. Hands and face
looked like they had making out with Chester the Cheeto cheetah. Did I want to
my kid to learn how to meet and talk to other people? Definitely. Did I
physically pick her up and move her away from Chester’s BFF? I did. I mumbled
something about “food allergies, sorry,” but I am not sure the grandma
understood. After all, the kid was just eating goldfish and drinking milk! No
peanuts in sight! In another life, I would have been confused, too.
This happened a few months ago, too, at the zoo. This time,
the cute little kid was eating ice cream. It was hot. The ice cream was
dripping. We were already in a conversation with the other mom when the liquid
poison carrier waddled over. We explain about the food allergies and the other
mom quickly snatched up her little one. But it was a conversation ender. We
looked like crazy people for keeping our kid away from other kids and the other
adult felt bad. Like they shouldn’t let their kid interact with anybody else.
Wash your hands AFTER eating
Generally, to have a food allergy reaction, the person has
to actually consume the food. The only exception I know of is cooking
shellfish. For peanuts, my allergist told me that to have a reaction to
inhaling peanuts, everyone on the entire airplane would have to open their
peanut pouches at the exact same time to release enough peanut dust. And that
would only affect the person is they were extremely sensitive.
This means that you can safely eat foods with allergens near
somebody with allergies- you just have to keep your food to yourself. The
problem with food allergies and babies is how much babies like to put things in
their mouths. So, after eating foods with allergens, to make sure you don’t
accidentally leave a smear of peanut butter on a block that another kid chews
on, you should wash everybody’s hands. With soap and water. Hand sanitizer
doesn’t cut it here. The alcohol in hand sanitizer kills germs, but it doesn’t
wash away anything off your hands. If you are somewhere without soap and water,
then using a wipe and thoroughly wiping off your hands is the next best thing.
Now when we go to the park, if we bring a snack with us, I
always wipe off my kids’ hands before setting them loose. Almost all of their
snacks have wheat in them and who knows when a poor little guy with a wheat
allergy is going to come along, either to say hi to my kids or to lick the hand
rail.
Have separate serving utensils at get togethers
For birthday parties
and family reunions I know my kid isn’t going to be able to eat the cake. Cakes
are a minefield of top allergens. But maybe there’s something she can eat- like
fresh fruit. The thing is, to keep those safe things safe, we need to make sure
the cake spatula doesn’t come anywhere near the fruit and the fruit ladle
doesn’t come anywhere near the yogurt dipping sauce. More utensils mean more
dishes to clean but ultimately a much safer party.
Teach your kids about food allergies
Guys. A few years ago, a 13-year-old kid threw cheese at a kid
with multiple food allergies, and because of complete ineptitude by his teacher
and multiple adults in the “welfare office”, the kid died. Horrifying. It’s
unclear what happened to the kid and adults involved, but you better believe I
would pursue repercussions to the fullest extent of the law. Negligence.
Manslaughter. I would want lives ruined. For a few weeks earlier in the summer,
it seemed like every time I signed on to twitter, Kids With Food Allergies (@kfatweets) would have another horrifying story about bullying. Nearly 35% of
kids with food allergies over the age of 5 are bullied about their food
allergies! Their blog focuses on what the parents of kids with food allergies
can do to prevent bullying- but what about the actual bullies?
When my oldest was little, we did talk about food allergies
a little bit- we talked about how there are things that some kids in his class
can’t eat. His best friend is allergic to sesame and we talked about how his
best friend couldn’t eat hummus. Never did it cross my mind that I should also
tell him PLEASE DON’T FLICK YOUR HUMMUS AT YOUR FRIEND, but maybe I should
have? If the 13-year-old that threw the cheese had known about food allergies,
would he have still thrown it? I hope not. I know that teenagers are mean, but
they aren’t that mean, right?
Just like we’ve instituted a wash your hands after you eat
rule, we could also institute a “never throw food because you don’t know who
could be allergic to that food” rule. And a “just because your friend can’t eat
a normal cookie doesn’t mean you can make fun of him” rule. Food allergies suck
enough without adding on bullying.
So. Let’s make the world a food allergy friendlier
place! Wash your hands! Keep your food to yourself! And don’t make fun of kids
who can’t eat everything you can.